The beginning of a New Year normally comes with some reflection of the year gone by followed by resolutions for the year ahead and this year is no different. However, I think for the first time for many of us, our hopes for the New Year will be a lot simpler. Spend time with family, get out of the house more, do what makes you happy and don’t take for granted the small things because my God you’ll miss them when they’re gone.
Every year for the past decade I’ve written down a long old list of resolutions and goals for the year ahead on New Years Eve but this year I did not. This isn’t because there aren’t things I want to achieve this year because I definitely do, it’s just that the past year has shown that so much can happen out of our control that messes with the world and I suppose writing down how many dress sizes I was FOR SURE going to drop this year seemed a bit redundant. Having said that, if you want to create an action plan for 2021 you go right ahead and manifest that shit to the universe!
For me, my goals are simple: believe in myself, take care of myself mentally and physically and…well finish my TBR pile 😂 Heres a little run down of my thinking for this year.
You hear the term “self-belief” thrown around on Instagram posts, motivational posters and the like…but what does it actually mean? To me, it doesn’t mean that everything I do is going to be a success if I simply believe it will, it means believing I am capable enough to try. It’s okay to fail and it’s okay to get it wrong, the fact that you’re trying is a success story in itself.
Things we all need to stop saying to ourselves in 2021:
- There’s no point in trying, they’ll be people more qualified than me. – Don’t sell yourself short
- I don’t deserve this. – You do
- What will others think? – Who cares
- I’m not good enough. – You are
- It won’t happen – Make it happen
Visualise where you want to be in a year. Got it? Now work out what it would take to get there and take it a day at a time. The smaller steps will seem much more doable than the overarching goal thus giving you a boost every time you get a win.
I think we all need to take a universal resolution to start really taking care of ourselves in 2021. For millions of people 2020 took a huge toll on peoples mental and physical well-being. We are social creatures, being in isolation with the fear of a deadly virus is going to damage even the strongest mind. Likewise, if you were a key worker, being so heavily involved in this effort would have come with real difficulties that are still enduring. The pandemic is still here, there is no avoiding it, however we should be able to start prioritising our health and wellbeing and try to avoid any further damage.
If you lost weight or toned up in 2020, major props to you. If you gained weight, also major props because you survived a crappy year so well done. If however, you would like that excess weight gone, let’s all make a team decision not to fall back on those quick win, restrictive diet plans that 9.9 times out of 10 don’t work and leave our mental health in the toilet. Deal? Instead, I am going to be focussing on 2 things: cooking more and moving more. I’m also going to try to refocus my evening routine, which is the time I normally like to snack. Let’s also remember that lasting weight problems are normally part of a wider mental health/behavioural issue with food (say it louder for the people in the back👏🏼) so working on your head is 100% more important than working on what’s on your fork in the first instance. I am a huge advocate for the use of exercise to help mental health with a side effect of improved physical health also.
Well-being tips I’m taking forward in 2021:
- Spend 30 minutes each day doing something I enjoy
- Journalling: Focus on writing positive manifestations when the anxious brain wants to find faults
- Be kinder in my responses to my failures/mistakes
- Read some pages at the end fo each day rather than scrolling through social media
- Take a few minutes each day to appreciate the small wins
- Find some routine in physical activity e.g lunchtime walking, morning workout
- Prioritise vitamin-filled foods in my diet
Who the hell knows what 2021 will bring, all we can do is try to stay focused on what we can control. The lasting effects of this year will continue for a long time however I’m hoping that by Easter time we will all be looking at a world a little closer to normality. Until then let’s do our best to take care of ourselves.
Let me know any goals you have for 2021 in the comments below and from me and my little corner of the internet may I say Happy New Year to each and every one of you and thanks, as always, for reading.